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Quality relationships are built on the foundation stones of mutual respect,growth,intimacy and trust...

What brings you here?

Are you struggling with any of the following in your relationship?

  • Having the same fight over and over again

  • Feeling withdrawn or disconnected

  • Not feeling heard, respected or understood

  • Loneliness or feeling suffocated

  • Lack of trust

  • Different needs for physical/emotional intimacy

  • Life transitions


Welcome~ you are not alone!!

The thing is...

Many of us come into relationship with the best of intentions, and yet find ourselves struggling with the same types of issues we vowed never to have. Contrary to what social media and other fairy tales would have us believe, we also don't live in a particularly relationship-cherishing culture. In other words, while positive relationships are in fact good for our health, most of us didn't grow up learning the intimacy-sustaining practices needed to actually do them well.


I am both a trauma and Relational Life Therapy-informed Counsellor:

What this means, is that within a deeply collaborative process, I help people develop the skills to live relationally. Sometimes this looks like helping a couple communicate with each other in ways that are more supportive or loving. Other times this may look like helping one or both partners work through current or past experiences in order to be present with each other in relationally constructive ways. Ways that re-build intimacy and trust.

Regardless, I work from the belief that the stories we've been told or come to believe about ourselves show up within our relationships. And, we can learn to engage with those stories in ways that nurture and sustain versus undermine those relationships.

Curious to know more?

Schedule your free 30 minute phone consultation:

counselling, couples counselling, victoria BC, Lisa Hostman, pain, Narrative therapy, RLT, Terry Real, self-esteem, communication skills, anger, conflict, boundaries, self-esteem

"Family pathology rolls from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path, until one person in one generation, has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to his ancestors and spares the children that follow.”

~ Terry Real

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